Sorry, America—You’re Not Ready For A Female President Yet

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From the Women’s March to the #MeToo Movement, it’s been quite the breakthrough year for women and feminism. Not only have women across America found their collective voice, but these words have also found an audience. Calls for justice no longer fall on deaf ears, as the masses are genuinely eager to listen when we speak.

Yet, despite this definite progress, sexism prevails. Women have made strides toward equality in the most relative of terms, and those steps are critical if we are to build long-term change, but there’s too much work left to do for us to declare an early victory. After all, from the basic assembly line to the highest government office, misogyny still reigns supreme. While 2017 might’ve been about liberation to the naked eye, it’s easy to see that we’ve got our work cut out for us when we stop to take a deeper look at what lies ahead.

Last year, women achieved one collective goal that both cleared the path for others and revealed the roadblocks that persist. While not everyone was pleased when Hillary Rodham Clinton became the first woman to represent a major party during the 2016 presidential election, women praised the former Secretary of State as her nomination was groundbreaking nonetheless. However, Clinton was then dragged through the proverbial mud — scrutinized in ways no man’s ever had to endure — thereby demonstrating that, while the United States might seem to be long overdue for a female president, antiquated perceptions prove that this country isn’t prepared for such a change.

Unlike the male leaders that dominate history, women in the public eye are judged by their appearance—their hair, their makeup, and their attire—well before their professional qualifications and accomplishments gain notice.

Women are shunned if they don’t smile profusely, they are considered deceptive when they wear too much makeup, and it’s become so common to chastise women for wearing an outfit multiple times that it’s now popular to praise powerful women when they wear their favorite dress more than once.

From former First Lady Michelle Obama to Kate Middleton, these high profile women have effectively made it acceptable to do what your average woman does every day. If we were to have a female president, many constituents would likely dwell on her appearance, allowing her looks to overshadow her policies. By now, everyone recognizes that criticizing women’s clothing and style serves as nothing more than a way to degrade the individual and crush her confidence so she second guesses her every move. Such behavior, especially in the context of this theoretical leader of the free world, would undermine democracy and common decency itself.

“Manterrupting” has also gained momentum, as Sen. Kamala Harris can surely attest to, which further emphasizes the lack of respect men have for female leaders, even those colleagues who should be seen as equals. Everyone’s well aware that women don’t earn equal pay in most scenarios, but when we don’t even warrant equal say, it’s obvious one gender enjoys more freedoms and privileges than the other.

Underneath, all such problems derive from the fact that countless men lack respect for the women in their lives. We’re nothing more than bodies, beings created to bring pleasure to the masses. They continue to treat women like objects because they feel threatened and long to belittle those who could very well surpass their personal success. We’ve experienced verbal and physical abuse long enough to realize the methods are nothing more than men’s smokescreen for their insecurities.

If we’re ever to be worthy of the female president experience, we must earn this privilege. We must alter the mindset of those who have yet to shake their old perceptions of women if we wish to rearrange the patriarchy and tear down old walls we were never allowed to climb. Women are each other’s best advocates, but we also need men on our side to teach those who’ve yet to join the 21st century why women’s success translates into success all around. We’re stronger when we work together instead of tearing each other apart. We need to move outside our comfort zones and understand how the world works today if we’re to ever prepare for our inevitable tomorrow.

(This post originally appeared on Storia.)

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Stop Using Social Media as the Scapegoat for Society’s Demise

During the early morning hours of May 7, Nicki Minaj took to Twitter to help fans in need. Over the course of this dialogue, Minaj agreed to pay out an estimated $30,000 of her own money to help the fans in question afford their college tuition and school supplies. While many critics might be skeptical about the motive behind her random acts of philanthropy, it’s hard to ignore that Minaj’s generous soul would never have connected with these struggling individuals had it not been for social media.

Of course, it’s easy for people to focus on social media’s failings. It promotes narcissism. It’s an unyielding distraction. It hinders everyone’s attention span. However, along with the bad, we’ve been exposed to a world of good that outweighs any negative sentiment. We now have an outlet for connecting with people outside our immediate circle, allowing us to learn and grow in ways we never could have before its creation.

Thanks to Twitter (and the Web, in general), we have the opportunity to remain abreast of international news in real time. Yes, there’s an enormous amount of content to sift through at any given moment, but by adopting healthy social media habits, it’s simple to filter through what’s important and what’s frivolous fluff. You see, those who claim that social networks drain people’s time and ruin kids’ attention spans are those who’ve failed to master healthy social habits themselves. All good things must be consumed in moderation—even media. We may live in the era of the Netflix binge, but that doesn’t mean such behaviors are smart. When used properly, social media arms us with the tools necessary to dismantle widespread ignorance and hold public figures accountable. Social media acts as the weapon we need to effectively fight for what’s right.

Following the U.S. presidential election, for instance, voters quickly took to social media—in some cases to celebrate, in some cases to express their disbelief and anguish while establishing the foundation for what’s now known as The Resistance. Women came together via social to plan and execute the Women’s March on Washington, as well as its sister marches across the world. And organizations, such as Planned Parenthood and the ACLU, have turned to social media to mobilize supporters and bolster donations. Without such outlets, these groups never would’ve come together so quickly and effectively. Without social media, it would’ve been much more difficult for these like-minded activists to find one another and turn their mutual disgust into productive outreach.

Even in less extreme cases, social media has the potential to make people feel less alone. Prior to social networks, outcasts likely felt that there was no one else in the world who understood their struggle. But, by being able to express their emotions online, many have found support they might’ve otherwise gone without. Those with minor grievances can also take solace in social media, for the memes and comics that rule the space demonstrate we’re not as alone as we once thought. (No, you’re NOT the only one who feels that way!) Critics will argue that social media has the opposite effect, as Facebook and Instagram posts often make said outcasts feel even more out of the loop than before, but when you stop to evaluate the new connections at their fingertips, it’s easy to see that social empowers them to change their situation for the better.

Face it—bullies will never cease to exist. There’ll always be people who tear others down in order to make themselves feel superior, no matter their platform of choice. But it’s our responsibility to teach today’s children how to navigate these new networks. Our parents taught us how to handle the challenges that came along with growing up, and we’ll have to do the same. Kids still have to face the same battles, even if they’re fighting on uncharted battlefields. Remember! We’re the ones who created this supposed mess, so we’re the ones who will have to right the course. We will have to teach them how to limit their screen time. We will have to teach them how to be mindful of others online. We will have to teach them not to idolize the manipulated images and personas they see across platforms.

Parents and authority figures who believe social media has ruined today’s youth are merely projecting their own insecurities, for they exhibit these less than stellar behaviors themselves. They’re guilty of deifying the celebrities they follow, and checking their phones excessively. They’ve become addicted to refreshing their feeds and awaiting new notifications. Yet, each time another adult gives their child an iPad or smartphone as a stand-in for an actual caretaker, they perpetuate the very problem they wish to rectify. Unless we take responsibility for how we conduct ourselves, we will never be able to alter the issue at hand.

Until then, critics will continue to focus on social media’s failings and blame these networks for what’s wrong with the world. Social media isn’t without its flaws, of course, but we mustn’t overlook the value it brings to the modern world. As with any tool, social can be used for good or evil. Let’s remember what social media can help us accomplish—as was the case with Nicki Minaj—before we vilify these networks once and for all.

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(This post originally appeared on Storia.)