The Pressure’s Off: Valentine’s Day in Retrospect
Just as ‘Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer’ claims “they should never give a license to a man who drives a sleigh and plays with elves”, I’ve always wondered who thought giving a tiny, diapered child a bow and arrow was a good idea. Considering I’ve spent my entire life BB Gun-free for fear of losing an eye, I’m convinced that this winged, weapon-wielding weirdo can’t possibly be healthy for humanity. (Though many wish they could blame their relationship woes on this fantastical fool, I’m sure.)
But, since we can’t place direct blame on the illusive Cupid, the brunt of the blame falls on our significant other’s shoulders. Men have a reputation for avoiding Valentine’s Day like the plague, while all the ladies of the land build their expectations higher than their heels will help them reach. Such high hopes leave both parties doomed, destined for disappointment and failure. Men feel pressured to spend money are their girlfriends and wives, thinking the more lavish the gift, the better, while many women feel unloved if they don’t receive the fanciest chocolates or the finest jewelry.
Yet once you move past all the pink and red hearts, heart-shaped doilies and chocolate boxes covered in red cellophane, you’ll notice that we’ve once again turned a day based on meaning into a day fixated on materialism. But all the diamonds and stuffed teddy bears in the world could never replace the joy that comes with a shared experience. Whether it’s an extravagant vacation, or just a simple dinner and a movie, time spent together is much more meaningful than money spent on each other. Material items cannot compare to memories, for these gifts are merely momentary. Some gifts break the barrier, but most of those bought in the last minute haste go forgotten days later.
Memories withstand the test of time and inevitably bring a couple closer, for shared experiences are what help us build those unbreakable bonds. You cannot reminisce about that box of chocolates your love gave you last year (unless you’re lamenting over the weight you gained, of course), but you will always have those memories to hold onto for a lifetime. To know someone wants to give you their time is the most precious gift of all and exemplifies their love through action, not empty gestures. And when you stop to realize how very little time we have with those we love, these moments are true blessings that money could never buy.